Alright, I rarely get involved over internet flare-ups but this one is pretty disgusting.
A friend of mine VERY recently experienced quite a bit of hate and attitude from another gay person… for reasons beyond my understanding. What was the reason?
My friend was asked to make a picture for this guy, and he didn’t feel like it… so he said no to this guy… so the dude went into this *NASTY* manipulation act…. over a picture.
Bullying doesn’t just happen from straight people to gay people… it’s clear and evident in our own community how gay people bash other gay people. It’s disgusting.
So my friend ignored him (blocked him)… got upset over how he was treated, but tried to let it go.
In an effort to step it up a few notches… he then uses ANOTHER kik account, and links my friend to the website where he posted my friend’s pictures (even XXX pics) on tumblr.
This is absolutely something that I just don’t understand. All over him wanting my friend to give him a picture.
I tried to speak with him myself… but he kept running… which cowards typically do.
Bullying is never welcomed or desired…but making people feel isolated and alone… is never the way to handle a situation. It’s gross.
So Bram, I tried to reach you in my chat room… and on kik… but you ran like a coward. Maybe someone else will have better luck in trying to understand why you felt the need to belittle someone else because you didn’t get what you wanted.
Bram Vanderoze’s kik: ilovethewayyoufuck
Bram’s other kik (when my friend blocked him): brammiewammie
It sickens me that because he didn’t get what he wanted… he would take someone else’s pictures and post them in chat rooms and all over tumblr. Those were private.
It’s disgusting. STOP bullying people and manipulating them to get what you want.
Another friend asked him to take down the pictures and back off… to which Bram laughed. It’s really gross. To even think that we would be talking about an adult here.
Oh well… thank you for reading this. Bullying is never the way to go. Making people feel bad or belittled because you’re miserable … I mean… come on. Be an adult.
And yes, I’m posting this for all to see. Why? I think shining light on a disgusting case of bullying quickly reminds us all how alive and well bullying is in our own community.
I do hope someone else is able to help him understand just how sick and manipulative he was… and help him see that we’re one big family… and should treat others with respect.
I’m not around it right now to talk/text, but I should be able to text later sometime.
You can also feel free to leave me a cool voice mail too! Lol… (anyone who wants to… that’s cool with me!)
They’re distancing themselves from you because you are leaving. They’re putting up their defenses because it’s going to hurt them when you go… so they are struggling with that… with you.
I have seen this happen before… sometimes you’re able to recover where you left off once you’re gone and have proven yourself not to slow or stop talking to them.
It’s hard to think that we would ever grow distant from those that we care about… but it is a natural human reaction to want to guard oneself from that happening to ourselves.
I know this is hard not to take personal, but the best advice I can give you is to show (as you have always done, I’m sure!) that you aren’t going anywhere…even tho you’re moving away.
The natural response is to push back and get mad at them for how they’re acting. I totally get that. I can’t say that I haven’t felt that myself before because I have… but I can tell you that friends of mine that I have stayed in touch with… I showed it to them how since I was the one moving… I would be the one who ensured that we wouldn’t lose touch.
I’m not telling you it is more your responsibility than theirs… because it truly is 50/50… but I did it because I wanted them to know that they meant that much to me.
I’m not asking you to do anything different. I’m just letting you know what worked for me.
I really think they are doing this because it’s hurting them that you’re leaving. And while you certainly should feel justified in being hurt with how they’re treating you… I truly don’t think they’re doing it for any other reason than they are guarding themselves from the pain of you leaving.
Of course, I could be wrong on this… but I just don’t think that’s what your friends are up to. That’s what I think anyways.
I hope that helps!
Tell yourself what you like about what you’re doing to yourself. I know that sounds funny, but it’s interesting. Clearly… make sure that you’re alone and nobody is near… but just talk out loud about what is turning you on. It may sound funny to you at first… but it’ll help you find the right words … so like anything else… practice makes perfect.
I truly think that’s about the best you can do. Just talk yourself through what you’re thinking about. And since it’s only you… you can be fully and completely honest about what is turning you on.
I know… sounds funny to do…but try it… start out quietly like you normally do… and then… when you’re wound up (you know when those feelings just get crazy)… just start talking about what you’re thinking about. Get primal and honest. Seriously… it’s fun. RAWR!
Let me know if that works for you. If not, we’ll come up with something else! RAWR! :-D
Yea? Chris likes my toes… hehe… RAWR! ;-)
That’s definitely cool. I’d let you do that. :-D
Awww… thank you for saying that. That is very sweet of you to say… *blush*
That is definitely hot. I won’t lie.
Also risky… Just please be careful. Random dick is definitely cool… but you always want to be safe.
I still can’t lie… that’s really hot.
As Kev said… “Danger! Danger! Danger!”… It truly is a sort of “war zone”
These are tumultuous waters to dive in. Knowing how many guys he’s been with (especially when he’s your first boyfriend - and even if he wasn’t) it’s never a good idea. When you start a new relationship with someone, both of your romantic pasts should not be brought up to discussion. Why? Because that’s actually none of your busineess. It sounds a bit rude, yes, but it is also true.
Digging up the past might also bring up problems and wounds. So I strongly recommend you that you don’t go down that way. Think of the present moment you’re living. He’s with you and not with them for a reason. Think of that.
Talking about “how many guys have you been with?” with your boyfriend it’s never a good idea. Take it from me, it was a BAD idea (it was a HUGE -stupid- fight)
So, don’t torture yourself with that. Just let it go. You cannot change his past, you only can change his present and probably his future.
So, just… “Let it go, let it go” (lol, sorry :P)
¡Suerte! & one big hug! :)
I love it when you write. RAWR! :-D