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Well, I would honestly be lying if I didn’t say that some men aren’t just out for sex. I wish that wasn’t the case, but it is.
The only thing I can suggest (much like my previous answer) is for you to have a conversation that you are in no hurry to get intimate that fast and want to know someone over time. If he gets more focused on the time it takes, and less on anything else… then you may have someone who is looking to just sleep with you. If he doesn’t seem to bat an eye on the idea of waiting, then he may be someone you’re more interested in.
I know that you mention losing faith in being gay. Just because of the bad apples, don’t let them distract from how awesome it is being gay. How cool it is to love men the way we do. I know that some guys can ruin it for all, but don’t look at it that way… if at all possible. I do certainly understand how you feel.
I think as long as you communicate your expectations and get to know guys longer before acting on anything sexual, you should be fine. The temptation of doing something with man IS overwhelming, but I do think that if you get to know someone before getting intimate like that… you’ll sort through a person’s motives much better, I believe.
And by the way, I think the reason that women were “much easier” in this regard is often times because we’re not interested in the same ways. And let’s say that you are more interested and still think it’s easier (bisexuality)… then I would point out that men and women usually see dating in a different light as well. Of course, this statement is a generalization and doesn’t apply to everyone… but that may be one of the reasons why you feel that women are easier to date than men. I have heard a lot of bisexual men tell me that their approach to men and women are different. Food for thought. :-)
I hope this helps. I think as long as you express a little more of your intent, you should truly be fine and find what you are looking for.
Let me know if that helps!
We’ve talked about it…but we haven’t done a full sex tape. We’ve recorded here and there, but I don’t even know where any of that went. Hahaha… RAWR! (and I’ll answer the next question… No, I can’t post it! Hahaha… RAWR!)