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My bisexual friends have heard me say many, many, many times that I don’t know how bisexual people do it. You love both genders… how do you pick one?
I suppose that quite a few bisexual people lean more towards one gender over the other… so maybe focus on that? But really, I don’t know how you could do it.
My passion for men is intense. I could only imagine the trouble I would have if I also liked women just as passionately. I don’t know how I would handle that.
So the best idea I could come up with is to go with how you are leaning. If you truly aren’t leaning… flip a coin? I mean, I really have no idea how you make that choice.
I can only offer this… go with what your heart tells you. I know that sounds so cryptic and fantastic, but look at it this way. Your body is telling you that it’s all about PEOPLE over GENDER. So then maybe by following your heart… meeting the person of your dreams… maybe that will be the answer you need to move that direction. I guess I’m saying this… don’t worry about picking… keep focused on finding the person that you feel completes you. If you do that, the choice will be made for you.
The only caveat is this… whatever you do… always be honest with your partner. I know a lot of bisexual men who will get married only to cheat later using the reason “my wife doesn’t have a cock” as justification. I hate that I still need to say that you should be honest with your partner… but a lot of people struggle with this.
And I applaud the men who have worked it out with their wives/husbands. Some actually have wives/husbands that are ok with their men playing around with other men/women once in awhile. They communicated and it works for them. So if you get it in your head that you can cheat because your wife isn’t the same as a man… or your man doesn’t have a vagina… snap out of it. Cheating isn’t worth it.
That would be my only warning… but I do think that the choice will be something that will land in your lap when the right person comes along. That’s what I would say. :-)
I hope that helps!
I always recommend Shelter. That’s my favorite gay movie of all time.
Hunting Season is a good show online. It’s really cute and very telling of gay culture. Each episode is about 10 minutes long. Check it out.
Will and Grace had a lot of gayness to it that I really loved. I still love that show even tho it’s off the air.
There’s many more but I’m not wide awake just yet. Haha… ummm… I’ll have to keep thinking…
Self-sufficient. Confident. Caring.
I suppose. lol… I could choose like a bunch actually… lol…
Danger! Danger! Danger! Don’t go down this path. Please.
Is it normal to feel this way? Sure. Is it going to get you anywhere? Absolutely not. It truly won’t. Why do you want to know this information?
Chris was with someone before me. I was with a few guys before him. Why are we no longer with those people? Well, it wasn’t meant to be with them. It was meant to be with us. And that’s how you need to see it.
The only time I think it is important to talk about the past is if there is a problem with health or something… a reason warranted to bring the past to the present… but the reason he is no longer with those guys is because he chose YOU.
Granted, you feel this way partly in that he is your first… and that is PERFECTLY understandable… but it will only give you answers you really don’t want to hear… and given that you say that you’ve already been upset when thinking about it… actually talking to him about it will be worse.
If I thought you could hear it all without being upset, then I would say you should go for it… but that doesn’t sound like it would be the case with you given what you’ve said.
I’m all for communication and making sure that couples are happily speaking their minds…but you should be very careful here. You may get really upset with his honesty and start an argument where there is none right now.
If you don’t think you can get past these feelings… you need to share that with him. But that’s only if you truly feel that this is a roadblock to your relationship that you cannot get around.
I’m going to tell you tho… different people have gone through different experiences which have led them to this point in their lives. Clearly none of the other men lasted… and he wants to be with you. Focus on that fact. If you feel that maybe you will be the “next ex” then bring up those fears and concerns with him.
I just can’t stress enough how careful you need to be here. If you get upset with just THINKING about it… a full on conversation may send you over the top. And there’s no reason to think that he won’t be fully honest if you ask… so you may well get more than you bargain for. Personally, I would rather not know the details before I came into his life. That’s a before time… a chapter ahead of my time with my guy… and that’s ok, you know?
I totally get how you’re feeling… but I just think you may get more than you truly want in this situation… and it could put a wedge between the two of you.
Let me know what you decide to do. I’m here to help. :-)
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I was just looking up that post that the anon submitted because I thought it was a really powerful message when I found this :/ turns out the caption isn’t actually by the posters of the image and just someone else who just likes to add made up stories to images :L still, hopefully that’s better though, because maybe the guy might not have been disowned by his family! :)
Thank you for sharing this! Gah. I hate it when people do things like that in situations like this (love). Thank you for sorting that out!
Real love - absolutely fantastic :)
Wow. I completely agree. Amazingly fantastically awesomely real. :-D
Wow. He absolutely has my support on this. Use that recipe! :-)
Great submission. Thank you so much!
Well, a couple of things could be going on here. There’s a chance they may be upset if you didn’t tell them you were thinking about going before you made the choice to leave. Friends can feel slighted when you do that. I can’t tell from your message if that was the case or not, so I thought I’d throw it in there in case they weren’t involved.
What if they did know prior to you making a choice? Well, then I would say that it’s most likely them pulling away so as not to be hurt by you leaving. Another city, from what you’ve said, makes it sound like it’s going to be pretty far away. So there may be a chance that they are pulling away because they don’t want the final day to be so painful.
I’ve pulled away from friends when I knew they were going away. I can’t say it was always the best decision, but sometimes it’s hard to deal with those emotions. Maybe they don’t want to be upset… and seeing you just reminds them that soon you will be gone.
And they could also be supporting each other. It’s really hard to say.
That’s the best thought I can come up with on your situation. They may not know how to tell you to stay… and may be struggling with saying anything because they do also want what’s best for you.
I know it’s hard not to take personal, but know that they may very well be protecting their hearts in this situation. I know there were times that was the case for me. I was so upset that I didn’t want the person to leave… that I just couldn’t be near them. :-/
That’s what I think. I’d love to hear others thoughts on this matter… if anyone wants to chime in.
Thank you for the question. It’s definitely worth thinking about.
I hope that helps!
Interesting. I never thought about that, but I could do one on moaning. hahaha… or is that a trick!? lol… j/k
I’ll have to think about that one! Great suggestion!
I absolutely love hearing that. Wow. Thank you! :-D That’s really really really sexy. RAWR! :-) Yum. Tell me when you do that again. ;-)
Thank you so much for sharing that with me. That truly rocks! RAAAAWR!
Thank you for this! Definitely blows my mind! Wow. I want everyone to read that and think about what that means. Seriously.
Thank you so much. :-) What a great thing to focus on! I copied that to my desktop list. :-D