We are not in an open relationship, but we have played around together. :-)
RAWR! Thank you for your kind words. Honestly, that means so much! :-)
We’re lucky! :-) I love being gay. I love how it makes me feel and love that I can embrace my closeness with other men. I love that I understand how another man feels on such an intimate level.
I get dick.
Men just make so much sense to me… and I wouldn’t want it any other way, you know?
So when you wonder about why you’re gay… think about all the great things that have to do with you being gay.
I can tell that you are focused on the bad. Do we get bullied? Yes. Do we have a hard time with society? Yes. Do we have a hard road sometimes? Yes. But it’s so easy to focus on the bad that we forget the good. We forget how amazingly close to other men we get.
When I’m naked with Chris, it reminds me constantly how lucky I am… and how amazed I am that we click and bond so deeply. Sure, society attacks us and forces us to think that what we have is bad… but when you really stop to think about it, being gay is absolutely amazing. The level of connection we share is STUNNING with other men. Please don’t lose that fact when thinking about it.
I’m here to help. Let me know if you have more questions. :-)
Well, I do! :-D RAWR! Where are we getting married?! :-)
check out my chat room… ;)
Log in and tell me what you love about being gay… and what you love about dick/ass. :-D RAWR!
Seriously… so fucking honored to hear that. Thank you SO much! Gah! I’m blushing so much!
I think you have to remember that online connections are easy for a reason… easy come… easy go.
What does that mean? It doesn’t take a TON of effort to meet guy online… so it’s no wonder that so many guys get flaky or just disappear after awhile.
So the first thing that I would offer is to remember that simple fact. Why? Because that way you aren’t putting your heart and soul into anything out of the gate. Save that for later. :-)
How do you keep them interested enough? Well, that’s also unique to each situation. It’s a safe bet that if a guy is all about you and then just stops talking after a bit… he wanted something. It could be as simple as someone to talk to… or it could even be that he was really horny.
It’s easy to rush the online situation because you want to take it to the next step. What I used to always do is just put it in its place. I would talk to guys and after getting to know them for a bit, I would ask them to hang out. If they weren’t interested or vanished on me, I just moved on. I would chalk it up to “not being real” and then see who else is out there. There are a lot of guys pretending out there so it does make it hard to find someone who is genuine.
And also remember not to push. Ask if someone wants to hang out… and if they shoot you down… then don’t push it anymore. Ask a few days/weeks later if you want and if you still get the same type of blow off… that should tell you that it will only be an online friendship and that’s it.
For me, once I started to see it for what it was… it got easier to handle. If I would offer to meet up with someone and they didn’t want to… then so be it. No sense in trying to convince someone. Why not? You could be handling all kinds of issues from that point… maybe they weren’t who they said they were… maybe their picture wasn’t real… maybe they weren’t being fully honest… and the list goes on. I can’t tell you how many guys I started getting close to and then found out were married. Again, not an issue… but I wasn’t interested in helping someone cheat.
I wouldn’t invite someone over initially after speaking to them. Give yourself a buffer so you have a shot at meeting some quality guys. If you push to meet every guy you talk to moments after you talk to them… yea, you can come off as slightly desperate. And we’ve all been there… so I get it. It’s just that strong desire for another male’s contact that we get wound up and really crave it. It’s normal for us. It’s just hard to explain to others.
I’m here to help. Online situations are tough because you really never know what you’re going to get when it comes to actually meeting the person. As long as you put it in its place in your mind… you’ll be fine.
You’ll meet him. I have no doubt. :-)
I hope that helps!