Your concern is extremely valid, honestly.   You need to make sure and take the back seat on all of the decisions that he’s making.  The last thing you want him to feel is tho you are leading him to make certain decisions or you’re pressuring him into anything.  Also, you don’t really want him to constantly see you as his “teacher” instead of lover.  And that’s an important distinction. 

Weirdly well is a great way of putting it as I would agree with you.  That’s also how I see it going.  And not telling your families is fine too.  That will come in time, maybe, but there’s no rush.  I think it’s excellent that he’s opening up and telling your friends.  I think that rocks actually.  It’s good for him to be vocal and express what he thinks. 

Just try and limit any kind of… “unless you do X, you can’t do Y” type of thing.  He’ll see it as pressure… and potentially as manipulation… which isn’t the direction you want to head.  I doubt you’re doing it, but if so, just try and curb that type of thing. 

At the end of the day, you want him to see that what he’s doing is because he wants to… and not because YOU told him to. 

There is a chance he could come to resent something … so you REALLY do need to go slow.  Slower than you would in any other situation.  He needs to know that he’s making these decisions… that it’s HIS choice.

Of course, I don’t think people often do things that they don’t want to do already… but with situations like this… it may be a bit of a challenge.  Stay vigilant and make sure that you give him the room to make the choices that he wants.  And remind him of that.  Not as a “throw it in his face” kind of thing… but he needs to know that he’s in control of his own destiny… that he’s making the choices of what HE wants to do.

I probably sound like a broken record, but I can absolutely tell you that I have seen situations go do where the person HAS resented things… and it’s usually because the person who is comfortable with things… has pushed a little too much.  And if you’re pushing, I know that it’s for the right reasons… not because you want him to admit things as much as you just want to be wide open and truly share each other as boyfriends do.  I just think you need to be REALLY careful here.  Keep easing into things.

And check back again.  I want to hear more about why you feel like you’re pressuring him.  I’m here to help.  We’ll get through it together.  :-)  And I gotta tell you… I’m grinning ear to ear as this has been such an amazing story so far! :-) 

Talk to you soon…

kev